Today is All Saints Day. It is a day set aside in the Church’s calendar to remember those who have gone before us. And it is a day set aside to remember ALL those who have gone before us, not just those who might qualify for sainthood through the formal Vatican process. I want to remind you that you are a saint by the one fact that you are a child of God, and that there have been saints in your life that have ushered you to this point in your spiritual journey … and that you just might be someone else’s saint.
November 1, 2015
In the name of the God of all creation,
The God alive in each of us as God was alive in Jesus,
And the power of God known in the Spirit.
Amen.
Of course, if today is All Saints Day, then yesterday was All Hallow’s Eve … Halloween. Halloween is a scary time filled with ghosts and ghouls and goblins … or it used to be. Today I see scary things like hockey masks and axes, plaid shirts and chainsaws, and worst yet, people dressed up in suits wearing masks of presidential candidates. However, in spite of today’s rendition of the holiday the historical origins of Halloween are tied to the Church’s Holy Day of All Saints.
Now the story of Halloween … All Hallow’s Eve … that has been passed to me came from a good friend who had heard it while studying at Canterbury Cathedral. It seems that in feudal England the Lord of the Manor would collect a “hearth” tax from all his subjects each year. To make sure that everyone paid their taxes, on the designated day, the subjects of the Lord would have to put out all lanterns, lamps, candles, and the fires that were burning in their hearths … as in fireplace … thus the “hearth” tax. The Lord of the Manor could then look out the window of his manor house on his subjects that night and if there was any light or smoke he knew he had a violator. So the night of the “hearth” tax would be a very dark one in the land.
The subjects of the Lord took advantage of this one night without fire in their homes to clean out their fireplaces and stoves. It was a dirty job that would cover them in soot and ash, but, being dark, it didn’t seem to matter all that much. That is, until the Lord of the Manor decided to collect his tax on All Saints Day … which meant that this dark night, with people covered with soot and ash, coincided with All Hallow’s Eve … the same night the souls of the departed returned to their homes one last time before being prayed into heaven on All Saints Day. A scary night … dark with no fires or light … soot and ash … and ghosts flying around. I was reminded of this story because just the week after my mother died I had ghosts flying around in my dreams. I will say something about those ghosts in a moment.
It was eight years ago today that we held my mother’s funeral in an outdoor chapel under a canopy of beautiful fall leaves at Kanuga Episcopal Conference Center in Hendersonville, North Carolina. She had died early in the week surrounded by my two sisters and one of my brothers. Many of you have heard this story before, but just before my mother took her last breath she was smooching the air. My sister Susan asked her who she was kissing. She replied, “It’s your father. He’s kissing me.” My mother died eight years to the day that my father died.
Before my mother’s death we … my two sisters, one of my three brothers and his wife, and Caren and I … took my mother to see the new Memorial Garden at Kanuga. This Memorial Garden was a place to inter the cremated remains of people related to Kanuga in one way or another. My mother and father had attended many conferences at Kanuga, and my four younger siblings had spent many weeks at summer camp there. And my father actually served as the President of the Board of Directors of Kanuga back in the 1960’s.
Although my father’s ashes were originally buried in a small garden at St. Paul’s Episcopal Church in Beaufort, North Carolina … on the coast near where they had lived for over forty years … my mother wanted my father’s ashes to be buried with hers in the Kanuga Memorial Garden.
The St. Francis Chapel at Kanuga is actually just a stone altar on one side of a small stream, and several rows of split log benches on the other side of the stream. The Memorial Garden is located on the hill behind the log benches with a plaque with the names of those buried there. When we took my mother to see the place where her ashes would be interred we had to navigate her wheelchair over tree roots and large rocks along an uneven path. When she saw the plaque with the names of those already buried there my mother looked it over carefully and spotted the name of a bishop my parents had known very well. “Oh, look,” she exclaimed, “Bennett is buried here. We’ll be among friends!”
For my mother’s funeral we brought my father’s ashes, along with some soil from the grave of my brother Brad who had died of polio as a young child, and reburied them with my mother’s ashes in the Memorial Garden overlooking the rhododendron and mountain laurel lined stream … on All Saints Day in 2007. That was 8 years ago, and this past week Caren and I, while visiting family and friends in Asheville, had the pleasure of visiting my mother’s and father’s gravesite at Kanuga.
It was that visit to see my mother and father’s burial site, and to participate in the ancient Jewish ritual of placing a small stone on their marker, that reminded me of the week after my mother’s death and when I was visited by her and my father in a dream. They weren’t the only ones in the dream … there were other people who had died that had been part of my life in that dream as well. There was my brother Brad; there was my friend David who committed suicide; and there was even a childhood friend who had died in an auto accident. I realize that some of you may find it unusual that I would be visited by these people in my dream. However, I have heard from enough people who have had similar dreams to know that I am not alone in this experience … it is just not an event that lends itself to Coffee Hour conversation … so it is not commonly shared.
Why would these people appear to me in my dream? Was it their souls flying around and re-entering my world to haunt me? Or was it that my memories of them were alive in my psyche ready to be called forth for some unknown reason? What I do know is that all of those who visited me in my dream had influenced my life in some profound way. I am who I am today because of having shared life with them. My father who gave up a successful corporate career to become a starving artist taught me to follow my heart; my mother who survived shotgun pellets flying over her head while working as a volunteer in a migrant camp taught me compassion and courage; my friend David, who was a colleague at the university where I taught mathematics, took his own life just months after receiving his doctorate. David, in his death, opened the door for me to explore a road not taken, and I followed that path into the ordained ministry. Others in my dream influenced me in other very profound ways as well, and my life has been different for having known these persons in their life … and known them in their dying.
This really isn’t about me. It is about All Saints … and all the saints who all of us have known in our own lives. Yes, All Saints Day is a date on the calendar, and the Greek language has a word for this kind of reckoning of time … “chronos.” “Chronos” is concerned with clocks and calendars. But the Greek language also has another word for time … “kairos.” “Kairos” is concerned with things like fruit ripening on a tree, or when the fall colors in the mountains are at their peak, or when it is the right moment to tell someone you love them, or when the time has come to leave this world and move on to the next.
We remember today ALL those who have gone before us because it is All Saints Day on our calendar … a day set aside in chronos. But, if those who have gone before us come back to visit us in dreams it is all too often a moment of kairos … it is not something that can be planned or put on a calendar. Often their visit to our dreams … whether we are asleep or awake … surprise us. Sometime they may even frighten us. But it is a reminder that they are a saint in our life … that we could not be the person we are today without having shared life with them. And these are sacred moments.
If that experience is true for you, as it is for me, then we must also remember that we will be saints for others. This isn’t about living into some saintly life that will offer us recognition from the Vatican. It is about awakening in us the realization that those that follow us will carry the legacy of the seeds we sow in them. It is an awesome responsibility … “awesome” as in being an awe inspiring responsibility to the generations that come after us.
We are all saints because we are children of God. We are made in the image of God, and called to live fully in that image. Our spiritual ancestors in generations before us are saints when their lives have had an influence upon our lives in our day. Sometimes those saints are our parents, and grandparents, and aunts and uncles. Sometimes they are our teachers and mentors. Sometimes they are our lovers with whom we share a bed. And sometimes, regretfully, they may even be our children when they predecease us. Who we are in this life is not our life alone. It has been formed by our experience with those who have gone before us … and who remain with us in our dreams … whether we are awake or asleep.
Today is All Saints Day. It is a day set aside to remember ALL those who have gone before us, not just those who might qualify for sainthood in the Vatican. I want to remind you that you are a saint by the one fact that you are a child of God, and that there have been saints in your life who have gifted you with a blessing of one kind or another, and they have helped usher you to this point in your spiritual journey. And, remember that you just might be someone else’s saint in generations to come. So I leave you with a question to ponder … what blessing will you leave as your legacy?
Amen.